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Lately, I have been getting random requests to include tips and fashion ideas for the groom and his groomsmen. And I say, why not! They are very part of a wedding to. I’m quite elated myself to know that more men are getting involved in wedding planning, and they are actually eager to contribute something to the occasion. So to start this endeavor of giving off ideas for the gents, I have Blake here to talk about his top 3 tips on being the best best man there is. He was asked to be his younger brother’s best man and now, he wants to share to us his tips and reminders on what a best man’s part in a wedding is. Let’s say, it’s just a bro’s tip to another bro. Now, let’s hear from Blake!
Big Brother’s Best Man Tips
Being a best man is a huge honor, and when my younger brother asked me to be his, I couldn’t have been happier. I love my brother, and I can’t wait to stand up there next to him on his big day. But there’s a lot that needs to get done before that happens, especially when it comes to best man duties. As a married father, I have had my fair share of experiences with my own wedding and the weddings of my friends. Here are some helpful tips when it comes to being a best man; tips that I am sure to follow as my brother’s big day approaches.
1) Groom’s Gifts
The gifts are a huge part of any wedding. My brother and his fiancé registered at two of their favorite stores, but there’s more to wedding gifts than just the registry. As best man, you’ll definitely want to get the groom something special just from you, and just for him. If you’re not brothers like we are, you’re probably each other’s oldest, closest friends, so it’s important to think sentimental and fun. It may sound cheesy, but trust me, it’s worth it. Save the kitchen appliances and fine china for the gift you get the couple, and use this as an opportunity to do something that really speaks from the heart. I found an old photo of my brother and I from when we used to play little league together, and paired that with an autographed baseball card from my brother’s favorite player, putting the two together in a nice frame. I know he’ll love it, and I know how much it’ll mean to him to get such a special gift.
Another one of your best man duties might be helping the groom pick out gifts for his groomsmen. He’ll definitely want to get them something they’ll love, and you can help him find something that can also be incorporated into the big day. I’m a huge Batman guy, and for my wedding I got my groomsmen Batman cuff links, as a fun addition to our tuxedos.
2) Alternative Bachelor Parties
Not every groom is going to want a typical bachelor party night out. My brother and I have both always been a little more low-key, and we much prefer a relaxed night to kick back with friends, and often something sports-related. For my bachelor party, a bunch of friends and I went to a hockey game and then out to a nice dinner. It was a great night, and the perfect way to celebrate. I’m still brainstorming ideas for my brother’s upcoming bachelor party, but I’m thinking about a weekend away to go camping, hiking, and fishing. We could also do a Tough Mudder run together – something my brother has always wanted to do. Then we could go out for a big dinner and drinks after and cap off the night with some cold beer and good company.
3) Day-Of Duties
The day of the wedding is crucial for the best man. It’s your job to keep everything under control, from the groom’s nerves to the wedding rings to the crazy family members (trust me, they’re always there!). Go in with a relaxed but responsible attitude. Keep the peace between all parties involved, keep everyone calm, and most importantly, just be there for the groom. Whatever he needs, it’s up to you to take care of, and he’ll be so thankful that you did. The best man speech is also hugely important on the day-of, and it’s definitely something you want to plan and prepare for. Be sure to watch the pace of your speech and walk the fine line between entertaining and sincere.
If you’ve been picked to be your friend’s or brother’s best man, it obviously means that he trusts you more than anyone, and wants you to be right there with him every step of the way. Have fun with it, and do whatever you can to make sure his big night, and everything leading up to it, it the best it can be. He’ll never forget it, and neither will you.
Blake Daniels is a stay at home dad living in upstate New York with his wife and 2 sons. When he’s not blogging you can find him working around the house, cooking clean meals and putzing around the yard. Feel free to contact Blake with any questions at firstname.lastname@example.org.